The Unintentional Week Off

I inadvertently took a week off blogging.

After being plagued with a parenting dilemma last week, I have spent the entire past week pondering what to do about it.

I have read and cherished your blog comments, had long talks with my husband, sister, mom, and one of my best friends. I met with the director of my son’s school to express my concerns and I contacted a speech therapist.

I went through a “I must re-decorate and clean this house to get rid of this nervous energy” phase. That actually yielded some great results; I will have to show you some pictures!

And then I spent some time with my son. Really spent time with him.

And here is what I have concluded: Everything is FINE.

Though I may be a bit biased, I think my son is amazing. He is intelligent, sweet, thoughtful, and on a developmentally appropriate level for a three-year old. He may at times have a bit of an attitude, but that is a combination of the difficulty of age three and us working harder to control his outbursts.

I strongly cherish the comments from his teachers. I used to teach myself, and I think that a teacher’s input is highly valuable and important. But now that I am a Mommy, I also know that no one else can know my child and what is best for him as well as I do. And so I must take the teacher’s comments but put them in the context of his holistic learning, much of which includes his home life.

He is shifting from baby to boy and along with that we are going to have to adjust our parenting style. There will be many more times in the course of his life where we will have to re-negotiate our roles, and I think that this is just the first of many new parenting phases.

And so I took a week off blogging but spent a week trying to more fully understand who this little person is that I have been given the gift of parenting.

Turns out, he is just a little person, trying to figure this life out, and I am just a Mommy trying to figure it out with him.

And we are going to do just that; one step at a time.

 

 

 

 

Comments

  1. This is wonderful, Julia. I’m so glad you too the time and decided to trust your instincts.
    I’m a strong believer that mothers know deep in their hearts what’s best for their children, but sometimes the solution just seems too simple 😉
    Having children is a constant state of re-negotiating and adjusting…. I’m right there with you!
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    • Thank you so much. I think you are exactly right, mommies so often know what’s best and are so often scared to embrace that.
      You have exactly described it; “Having children is a constant state of re-negotiating and adjusting.” I am sure this is only the first of many new parenting phases.
      Thank you so much for being a mommy who can understand the complexities and ups and downs of this parenting journey!

  2. Elizabeth Kane says:

    You take that week off! You’ve been dealing with a lot. I’m glad you got in some good time with your son – that’s the stuff that truly matters when a hardship is being had.

    By the way, I am the *same* way cleaning and re-decorating around me to get rid of nervous energy, hardship, or anything that’s been cluttering my mind. Do what you need to do :)

    • Thank you so much, girl. I am so glad to know you clean with nervous energy, too! I am like a crazy person when I nervous clean haha! :)

  3. Yet another moment at which I am proud of you. (There are so many!). You are a great mom and both you and Noah are blessed by your loving relationship. Glad your processing allowed you to keep things in a healthy perspective. Love – mom