An Hour Alone

I used to be a scheduled person. I used to be a Kindergarten teacher, so my day was divided into 20 minute segments of learning, teaching, organizing, writing lessons, entering student progress, and even squeezing in lunch and a bathroom break in a 20 minute time frame.

Then I became a stay-at-home Mommy. I was on baby time. I slept when the baby slept. I nursed when he wanted to nurse. I ate however much I wanted whenever I was hungry. I enjoyed trash daytime television. I reveled in the lack of schedule.

I have not had a schedule for nearly three years now. And I adore it. I adore staying up late when I need to and sleeping in when the toddler allows it. I adore taking leisurely walks with my toddler and marveling at things like flowers growing because we have nothing else to do. I love not having a schedule.

My life is not always as lovely as described above. My days are filled with laundry and dishes and cleaning and bottom wiping and trying to keep up with the needs of an ever-demanding and incessant talking toddler. But I don’t have a time frame to complete all of my to-do list.

So today, I am linking up with Stacey of Mothering Moment’s great listicles idea. It’s an interesting task; describe an hour in your day.

Today, I’m going to share a very rare hour with you. An hour of alone.

4:00 PM – Toddler and husband are upstairs for a nap. House is quiet. Cat sits in my lap and purrs as I sit at the computer reading and commenting on other’s blogs.

4:20 PM – Decide to get a snack. Go for a diet coke and some Cheez-Its. This is my time, remember? No one said it had to be healthy.

4:25 PM – Really wish we had cupcakes or something in said quiet house. Search kitchen. We do not.

4:32 PM – Turn on TV to TBS where Friends re-runs are on . Enjoy the banter between Rachel, Ross, Phoebe, Monica, Chandler and Joey.  Hope turning on TV does not wake sleeping boys upstairs.

4:34 PM – Sit back down at computer in guest room/office/playroom downstairs. Position chair to see TV in living room. Enjoy background noise of Friends and the clicking of the keyboard.

4:35 PM – Wonder what will happen next so I can finish this post.

4:38 PM – Stuff face with Cheez-Its and diet coke. Delicious.

4:39 PM – Check bank account balance to see if we have enough disposable money for me to order take out tonight while the hubs goes back to work on the night shift. Frown at the questionable outcome.

4:42 PM – Cat comes back into my lap and makes herself comfortable. She is soft and warm and I think we both enjoy this quiet company away from the toddler pulling her tail and demanding my attention.

4:51 PM – Hear husband’s alarm going off upstairs. It’s almost time for him to wake up for the night shift. The toddler will be awake soon, too.

4:56 PM – Realize it’s time to wrap up post. Spell check. Remain in awe that I got a whole hour alone to engage in junk food and blog activity.

4:58 PM – Hear husband walking around upstairs and start shower. Consider going up there. Remember we are not in college anymore and typing with a cat in my lap is actually much more appealing than joining husband in shower. I am getting old.

5:00 PM – Gently place cat on floor. My time is up. But what a wonderful time it has been.

It’s safe to assume that the rest of my day was a constant task of toddler wrangling, bottom wiping, dishes, laundry, cleaning, and blogging catch up. But this hour, was for me. Thank goodness for blogging, Friends, diet coke, and Cheez-Its.

Join me on


  1. Ahh, I feel more relaxed just reading about your alone time! I’m also feeling hungry for Diet Coke and Cheez-its! :)

  2. What a wonderful and therapeutic hour! We all need those alone time hours every now and again! Thanks for linking up!

  3. jealous of your hour alone and lol about not being in college anymore….

  4. I need to schedule an alone hour. Perhaps I’ll poop during that time without an audience. Wouldn’t that be marvelous.

    • Ohhhh yes. Bathroom time without an audience would be a huge novelty here. Let me know if you figure out how to do that.

  5. Great post. I love how you wrote it while it was happening. Your comment about the cat in your lap made me chuckle.

    • Thank you! :) Writing while it happened was the only way I would remember. Otherwise if you had asked me how I spent an hour alone I would have said, “Oh, I didn’t do anything, really.” :)

  6. Oh an hour of alone sounds pure divine!

    And ceez-its and diet coke do, too! :)

    (Your not in college/getting old line? Perfection! Hee!)

  7. Lovely to have you join us Julia. I really like your writing style. Amazing what seems to make us happy these days and what we do with our hour alone :)

    • Thank you for such a sweet compliment! So glad to be a part of it. Thank you for hosting such a lovely link up!

  8. Kimberly says:

    I think the hour that I get along during nap time goes by in a flash. Yet at the same time, I have no idea what happens in that hour either!

    • Yes! If I had not wrote this post while it was happening, I later would’ve said, “Oh, I didn’t do anything, really.”

  9. Kimberly says:

    When I get an hour alone during nap time it always seems to fly by. Yet at the same time I have no idea what actually happens then either!

  10. LOL! Poor hubby. But I am glad you got your hour of Julia. Self-care is most important.

  11. That hour is an important one, isn’t it?! Cheez-its are the best, too :) I always struggle to relax in that precious hour, never trusting how long the child will actually sleep!

  12. Ah those rare hour alone during nap times, they are wonderful to stay at home moms, especially if you aren’t running around trying to get chores done. :) I love that you thought about joining your husband in the shower and decided against it. Ha ha ha so true!

  13. Diet Coke and Cheez-its–are you me? Love your list:)